Day 3: How to suck at focusing (story of my life)

It’s quite appropriate that I’m writing about this topic with only minutes to go before Day 3 is over.

Quite simply, I get distracted. Often. Like really often. I could go on about how I’ve had ADHD since I was whatever age and that I’ve been on every med in the cabinet but that’s just making excuses. Heck, making excuses itself is a distraction and a result of lack of focus. Discovering causes instead of making excuses and then figuring how out to deal with them and move forward – now that’s focus.

As much as I’d like to put earphones on and attach blinders that get rid of my peripheral vision that’s just not happening. And it’s not like I don’t want to not focus… I just can’t help myself. I guess it comes back to trying and effort.

Someone (that same person who called me out on not trying) said I’m a champion of not focusing. It sucks but it’s true. I can focus on the discussions around me but not what’s in front of me. I don’t miss a beat around me but I’m hitting air when it comes to what’s in front of me.

Perhaps it’s a subconscious way of saying I don’t won’t to focus or pay attention. I don’t know really…

So what can I do to work on this? I can catch myself in acts of non-focus. I can learn the triggers and how to react to them. It’s like driving a car I guess: you learn how to anticipate potential roadblocks and accidents that could happen by preparing strategies and actions on how to deal with them. That way you’re not blown out of the water when you drift off into some different stratosphere of on-goings and happenings. Of course there’s making a list and a way to complete those tasks but I’m liking that first method a whole lot more. Not to say the list is ineffective… It’s integral

That’s another of learning who you are. And understanding how you tick (and ‘tock’ – I’ll call that the opposite of goods – we should strive to identify, deal and hopefully eliminate those tocks.)

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